Monday, January 25, 2010

What if Sherlock Holmes has ADHD?

My darling husband and I just saw the new Sherlock Holmes movie with Robert Downey Jr. and Jude Law.

It was fabulous!

In one of the first scenes we see how Sherlock Holmes is able to look capture every nuance of a situation and immediately analyze it. He does it all in a split second, but through movie magic, the audience gets to see the entire analysis in slow motion.

So we get to see what makes him brilliant! When he's on a case he's unstoppable. His keen senses can pick up any clue, and his mind sorts through that data like a computer. He solves mysteries by piecing together the small pieces and seeing the bigger picture all at once, and all in the blink of an eye.

He's also very physical, buzzing with energy. When danger comes he's an unstoppable force, bringing his mind and athletic prowess together to defeat (or at least escape from) his foe.


But we also get to see that this ultra-sensitivity to his surroundings can make him a bit nuts.

When he's not on a case, it seems like he doesn't know what to do with himself. He almost feels assaulted by all of the sensory input. Maybe he's actually using the drinking to dull his senses and his mind -- self-medicating? And it seems like he's searching for an outlet for his energy, which is where the fighting matches come into the picture.

So I was theorizing that this version of Sherlock Holmes would probably be labeled as having ADHD. Here are some adult ADHD symptoms that he displays:
  • Work space is cluttered and messy;
  • Trouble remembering appointments;
  • Zones out of conversations;
  • Problems with planning;
  • Several tasks are started at once;
  • Easily distracted;
  • Restless; and
  • Blurting out things he later regrets.
As a life coach, I noticed that his abilities are a gift when they have purpose ... they make him the best detective around. But when they lack purpose, Holmes can't handle them AND they are judged as being socially unacceptable.

I know that I've seen this type of thing in my own life. For instance, I love details, learning and personal growth. When it has a purpose, like life coaching, it's celebrated. Yet in my personal life, I can come off as a know-it-all and have ever since my friend got in a fight with me and called my "Little Miss Professor" back in 6th grade.

And maybe I did behave like a know-it-all. I certainly have to be responsible for how I behave in relationships, learning to harness my gifts and talents without vomiting them all over someone else. But maybe -- sometimes -- it's the other person's hangup. Maybe they just haven't learned how to deal with me.

Think about it: what parts of your personality have been criticized. Where have you been told that you're being unacceptable? Could these same things be seen as a talent?

Have you made these personality traits your adversary? I know that I've kept quiet many times in my life, because I didn't want to be seen as a pushy "Little Miss Professor." Was it fair that I silenced myself? What did I miss out on?

Can these parts of your personality be harness and used with purpose? Maybe I could've given the information in a way that was "acceptable" and maybe I'd have actually have helped someone.

And when it comes to ADHD, maybe we just don't know how to work with these gifts, yet? Maybe these are the brains of the next Albert Einstein, but society has made the condition into an adversary. Maybe learning to harness and use this mental energy for a purpose is actually the path to our future instead of a roadblock.

Friday, January 15, 2010

Personal Power and Connection

Um, yeah ... so far, life is different since I've reclaimed my personal power.

I've been doing personal work for years (duh, I'm a life coach). But NEVER have I felt so comfortable in my skin.

First off, I've been talking to people like crazy! I'm not one to start many conversations with strangers, although I have been doing more of that. Mostly I've been keeping the conversations going instead of answering questions with a yes/no. Grocery cashiers, moms at the school, people in line with me ... you name it! I'm connecting here and there.

When I was a student in my coaching program, I had several assignments where I'd be connecting with strangers and acquaintances. I did it. I felt more "connected," and yet it still felt fake. This doesn't feel fake! This is just natural conversation.

I never realized how much I was still holding myself back - worried about acceptance, not wanting to say something stupid, not wanting to have my energy sucked away by someone else. I thought I'd conquered all of those fears and stressors, and yet there was a deeper level I hadn't even touched.

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Personal Power in 2010

I just had the best massage in my life! I'm here on a Disney Cruise and Emerson from Portugal roughed me up in a good way.

Apparently he also got some emotional junk moving. I've heard that can happen with body and energy work, and it really seems like it happened to me this time. In the middle of the massage I felt like I was buzzing with energy.

And you know that John Mayer song, "Bigger than My Body?" The main hook is, "C I'm bigger than my body gives me credit for." Well I felt like I was filling the entire room -- much bigger than my body. I felt extremely powerful, and like I could tap into a power that was even bigger.

That's when it hit me; I always have this energy/power at my disposal, but I certainly don't feel like that all the time. So where have I given that power away?

Scenes from my life started flashing through my mind of all the kids at school who made fun of me. Of my parents' divorce. My fourth-grade teacher. The embarrassment that my family was on welfare and we used food stamps to pay for our groceries. Being too afraid to speak up and allowing my dad drive drunk with me in the car. Giving up on myself because finding a job in my field was harder than I thought it would be.

With each scene, I took my power back. I can't explain exactly how I did it ... it seems like I either verbally (in my head) told the person I was taking it back or I envisioned sucking it back into me. And with each scene, I felt like I was growing and expanding and encompassing the boat and the ocean and the sky.

It was amazing. I left the spa feeling more grounded and more centered than I've ever felt in my life. I'm left wondering if this feeling is temporary or if there really was some big shift that occurred inside of me. If it is a shift, I can't wait to see where it carries me in 2010! I'm ready to soar!!

Someday I'll fly.
Someday I'll soar.
Someday I'll be so much more,
Cause I'm bigger than my body gives me credit for.