May was amazing; I spent the entire month putting together tons of content for my new coaching program! So if you noticed the blog was a little sparse, that's why ...
And while I was doing that, I hired a Virtual Assistant to work on updating my website so that I can bring you all of that great coaching content. Wait until you see it! It's going to be fabulous.
Right now, I'm working on getting the website stuff finalized, and my content into a format for the website. So, there's still some more behind the scenes work to be done over the next several weeks.
In the meantime, I'm going to keep bringing you some great coaching tips through my blogs and on my WTMJ segments, Thursdays at 4:15 pm.
Stay tuned for some great stuff!!
Monday, June 14, 2010
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Getting the Most out of Your Gratitudes
Almost anyone involved in personal growth will tell you that "gratitudes" or "counting your blessings" is an important tool. Wanna know exactly why? Watch this post to learn how being thankful affects your brain and find out how to get the most out of your gratitudes.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Design your Summer to Avoid Overscheduling
For some reason, the audio and video won't sync on this clip. So if you want the info that's in this one, just sit back and close your eyes ...
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Balance is nearly impossible to get, but it's easy to feel!
Have I mentioned that I used to be a dance teacher? Balance was a physical quality back then. Something that all the dancers strived for. Some days it was elusive and their performance would be off the entire class. Other days they felt strong, their steps were clear and precise, and they felt anchored to the Earth.
As a life coach, I still haven’t gotten away from balance. So many of my clients -- especially the women -- want balance in their lives. The start feeling frazzled and overwhelmed and balance seems to be the elusive answer. But the truth is that they want to feel strong and anchored to the Earth so they can perform better, just like my dancers.
Now a dancer can tell you exactly what a plie or pirouette is. Those are very specific movements. But they can’t really define physical balance or tell you how to get it. It’s something you just have to feel, and you have to make these little tiny adjustments to achieve it.
That’s how it is with life balance, too; it’s a feeling, not a thing you can get or do. And sometimes you have to make these little tiny adjustments until you’re suddenly and easily feeling balanced.
Ironically, the first thing to do to start feeling life balance is to stop using the word. By saying you “need more balance,” you’re just adding one more thing to your “to do” list. It’s one more thing that has to get done; and when you don’t get it done, it becomes another reason to beat yourself up.
“Why can’t I just find some balance? What’s wrong with me?”
Get clear
The other reason to banish the word from your vocabulary is that balance is a Blanket Word; it’s a word that’s so general, it covers up your feelings and needs. A Blanket Word lets you hide from yourself. Instead of hiding, you need to get clear on what balance really means if you’re ever going to feel balanced.
So what feelings and needs are you hiding? Before you throw out the word, you need to get clear and define it. Ask yourself:
What do I really want from balance?
What do I need right now?”
Some people want balance to have more peace in their lives. Others want more time alone or with family. Others want to be appreciated or understood. Whatever your answer, chasing balance isn’t going to get you any closer to your wants and needs.
But once you’re clear on your wants and needs, you can align with those wants and needs. You can then make those necessary adjustments to your life.
I once had a client who was really family oriented. To show support and be involved in her children’s education, she joined the PTA. Yet every time a meeting came around, she dreaded going. It through her whole week off-balance.
So we examined what she really wanted when she used balance -- what the word “balance” was hiding. What she wanted from balance was joy. She was already a pretty joyful person, but when she wasn’t balanced, she lost that joy for her life and what she was doing. Her PTA duties were not giving her any joy or satisfaction.
When we dug even deeper -- getting even more clear and specific, we uncovered what she needed right now. She really needed more time with her family -- all teenagers who would soon be leaving the nest. On the surface, it looked like the PTA was the perfect thing for being involved in their lives, but it was actually taking her away from her house during family dinner. She needed to be directly involved in her children’s lives instead of in a supporting role for their education. She quit PTA and spent that evening home with her family.
Get connected
Sometimes we don’t feel like we can quit an activity to get more balance. Or we have a list of tasks that just need to get done, which feels like the exact opposite of balance. How can we feel balance when we have those situations?
The answer comes when we connect to our soul. Take a step back and look at the big picture. What’s really important in your life? What are your top priorities? What are your fundamental values? Get clear on what makes your soul sing, then ask yourself:
How can I make a soul connection?
I think anything can be connected to your soul. Almost ANY job can be framed to provide a soul connection. A cleaning lady provides peace and order to a home and family. A fast-food worker gives time to all the people seeking quick nourishment -- time they could spend on very valuable endeavors. The person at the gas station is providing us with energy that allows us to drive to our next amazing life experience.
Just look at what is important to you and make the connection. The connection is what makes our work meaningful. When my daughter was a baby, I used cloth diapers. I never minded the “extra work,” because it connected to my environmental values, my parenting values and my financial values. There was a very strong soul connection that gave my extra laundry a lot of meaning.
Can you even begin to imagine what life would be like if you made those soul connections? What if everyone did? How about if you just stopped worrying about being balanced, and just let it be a signal that you’re not living life easy?
Because that’s exactly what it is. It’s just a signal and nothing else. It’s not some elusive thing that we have to find or get to successfully dance through life. It’s just a signal telling you that it’s time to get clear and connect.
As a life coach, I still haven’t gotten away from balance. So many of my clients -- especially the women -- want balance in their lives. The start feeling frazzled and overwhelmed and balance seems to be the elusive answer. But the truth is that they want to feel strong and anchored to the Earth so they can perform better, just like my dancers.
Now a dancer can tell you exactly what a plie or pirouette is. Those are very specific movements. But they can’t really define physical balance or tell you how to get it. It’s something you just have to feel, and you have to make these little tiny adjustments to achieve it.
That’s how it is with life balance, too; it’s a feeling, not a thing you can get or do. And sometimes you have to make these little tiny adjustments until you’re suddenly and easily feeling balanced.
Ironically, the first thing to do to start feeling life balance is to stop using the word. By saying you “need more balance,” you’re just adding one more thing to your “to do” list. It’s one more thing that has to get done; and when you don’t get it done, it becomes another reason to beat yourself up.
“Why can’t I just find some balance? What’s wrong with me?”
Get clear
The other reason to banish the word from your vocabulary is that balance is a Blanket Word; it’s a word that’s so general, it covers up your feelings and needs. A Blanket Word lets you hide from yourself. Instead of hiding, you need to get clear on what balance really means if you’re ever going to feel balanced.
So what feelings and needs are you hiding? Before you throw out the word, you need to get clear and define it. Ask yourself:
What do I really want from balance?
What do I need right now?”
Some people want balance to have more peace in their lives. Others want more time alone or with family. Others want to be appreciated or understood. Whatever your answer, chasing balance isn’t going to get you any closer to your wants and needs.
But once you’re clear on your wants and needs, you can align with those wants and needs. You can then make those necessary adjustments to your life.
I once had a client who was really family oriented. To show support and be involved in her children’s education, she joined the PTA. Yet every time a meeting came around, she dreaded going. It through her whole week off-balance.
So we examined what she really wanted when she used balance -- what the word “balance” was hiding. What she wanted from balance was joy. She was already a pretty joyful person, but when she wasn’t balanced, she lost that joy for her life and what she was doing. Her PTA duties were not giving her any joy or satisfaction.
When we dug even deeper -- getting even more clear and specific, we uncovered what she needed right now. She really needed more time with her family -- all teenagers who would soon be leaving the nest. On the surface, it looked like the PTA was the perfect thing for being involved in their lives, but it was actually taking her away from her house during family dinner. She needed to be directly involved in her children’s lives instead of in a supporting role for their education. She quit PTA and spent that evening home with her family.
Get connected
Sometimes we don’t feel like we can quit an activity to get more balance. Or we have a list of tasks that just need to get done, which feels like the exact opposite of balance. How can we feel balance when we have those situations?
The answer comes when we connect to our soul. Take a step back and look at the big picture. What’s really important in your life? What are your top priorities? What are your fundamental values? Get clear on what makes your soul sing, then ask yourself:
How can I make a soul connection?
I think anything can be connected to your soul. Almost ANY job can be framed to provide a soul connection. A cleaning lady provides peace and order to a home and family. A fast-food worker gives time to all the people seeking quick nourishment -- time they could spend on very valuable endeavors. The person at the gas station is providing us with energy that allows us to drive to our next amazing life experience.
Just look at what is important to you and make the connection. The connection is what makes our work meaningful. When my daughter was a baby, I used cloth diapers. I never minded the “extra work,” because it connected to my environmental values, my parenting values and my financial values. There was a very strong soul connection that gave my extra laundry a lot of meaning.
Can you even begin to imagine what life would be like if you made those soul connections? What if everyone did? How about if you just stopped worrying about being balanced, and just let it be a signal that you’re not living life easy?
Because that’s exactly what it is. It’s just a signal and nothing else. It’s not some elusive thing that we have to find or get to successfully dance through life. It’s just a signal telling you that it’s time to get clear and connect.
Friday, April 30, 2010
The 3 Biggest Mistakes to Avoid when Budgeting Your Money
This week I hooked up with Rebecca Tervo CPA to get some practical budgeting tips for my people! Listen to our chat where she reveals three big budgeting mistakes:
Rebecca Tervo, CPA, is the founder of Tervo & Co Financial Fitness. You can check out her blog at www.tervofinancial.com/blog where she writes about personal finance, Quickbooks tips, and her own entrepreneurial experience. Lots of free tips and advice!
Rebecca Tervo, CPA, is the founder of Tervo & Co Financial Fitness. You can check out her blog at www.tervofinancial.com/blog where she writes about personal finance, Quickbooks tips, and her own entrepreneurial experience. Lots of free tips and advice!
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Is Your Perfectionism Screwing up your Budget?
Perfectionists have impossibly high standards. Impossibly high standards make things ... well, IMPOSSIBLE! Here I'll tell you how to step into saving and budgeting your money slowly and simply. No stress or overwhelm!
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
I'm not ignoring you!
Hello, Everyone!
I just realized people have been leaving comments on my blog. I wanted to let you know that I wasn't ignoring you; I just spend most my time in the administrator mode, and so I never even noticed!
I've changed my notification setting, so now I'm ready to enter into a (timely) dialogue with you. Thanks to everyone who has left a comment, and I look forward to more in the future!
I just realized people have been leaving comments on my blog. I wanted to let you know that I wasn't ignoring you; I just spend most my time in the administrator mode, and so I never even noticed!
I've changed my notification setting, so now I'm ready to enter into a (timely) dialogue with you. Thanks to everyone who has left a comment, and I look forward to more in the future!
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